I did some research into what self pity is and, while it is generally seen as feeling sorry for one’s self and something that should not be done because it is “weak” or “pathetic”, it is actually something that many of us should practise in small doses.
You see, if you are as empathetic as I am you have probably found yourself crying at a sad scene in movies or unable to watch the news because of how upset seeing others suffer makes you feel. That is compassion yet we are taught not to extend the same compassion to ourselves because it is “selfish” and self pity
I’ve tried to explain to people many times to try and get them to understand what goes on inside my head but a lot of people who view this as self pity do not show compassion for themselves so how can they show any for me?
Feeling sorry for yourself is okay because it’s a cruel world out there and sometimes all you’ve got is yourself.
Only you can truly understand what you are going through so it is up to you to show yourself the kindness and compassion that others may not have shown you.
That being said it is important not to “wallow” in self pity I think just enough to make yourself cry so you can release your stress hormones and then move on.
It is important to practise the compassion we show others on ourselves. So treat yourself like you would treat another person in the same situation (assuming that would be with kindness and empathy)
How you treat others is a reflection of how you treat yourself so how you treat yourself has a great affect on others, treat yourself with love and kindness and others will feel it too.
Thanks for reading,